Friday, May 29, 2009

Poor Little Guy

May 29, 2009

“I never get a break from piano.”

This was said at breakfast today. It was Yahoo #1, who lucky-fer-him, gets to have a repeat of my tortured childhood. Don't you feel bad for him? Forced to take piano lessons from a cute, hip and edgy virtuoso? He'd be better off in Malawi. Or Ethiopia. Or Newark.

(Poor little guy.)

His statement, however, was far from accurate. On weeks that include holidays (Memorial Day for example), the Piano Teacher holds a group class with theory games and musical treats. This is in lieu of a full-fledged lesson. This also means Yahoo #1 has two weeks to prepare for the next lesson (instead of one), that's two whole weeks for one week's work.

(Poor little guy.)

Being as this was the last week of school, there's a fair amount of excitement around. None of us can hold still let alone concentrate enough to do the necessities like brush the teeth and wear shoes that match. (Notice that I used us. I'm usually included in that thing called us). I decided to give Yahoo #1 the week off from piano.

(Poor little guy.)

Trouble is, he hadn't noticed, hence the “I never get a break from piano” comment. I looked at him then asked, “Why is it son, that you only notice discomfort?” He responded with something like, “It's not discomfort mom. It's the need to rebel. I must always be pushing a boundary somewhere so that I know where the edge is. It's similar to a baby in a crib. The baby will unknowingly work his way around the crib as he sleeps to know that he is safe.”

He didn't really say that. But then you knew as much. Once again, his adoring mother has put words into his mouth, which she does often, for the sake of telling a story.

(Poor little guy.)

I learned something today. Or rather, I thought about something for the first time. Is it human nature to notice moments of distress, hardship or malaise before we gladden ourselves by feeling pleasure, good fortune and relief? Do the annoyances of our lives overshadow calm and ease? Must the moment be free of unpleasantries to see joy? Do pain and malcontent prevent us from appreciating the good? Do I have unlimited access to a thesaurus? Am I reading too much Ayn Rand? Prolly.

Seeing the good is easier said than executed. All of those things - pain, hardship, misfortune – they're very real and very uncomfortable and very overbearing. It's work to overlook discomfort to see the good and the positive. And sometimes, in moments of despair and hopelessness, seeing anything good is down-right impossible.

The Yahoo and his unseen break from piano? Maybe that's human nature. Or maybe it's just the way he was raised....

(Poor little guy.)


Winder said...

You could tell him that you know of several poor little girls,(they are older now)from a family we won't mention, who would have loved to have a piano to practice on or the money provided for lessons. Kind of like the whole there are starving children in China and see how that works.

Probably won't because if he is anything like I I think he is I am sure he would say they can have my lessons.

Staci said...

I have another theory about this. I think we just notice the things that are out of the norm in our lives. Like if you lived in medievel times and your life really was full of hardships, you would really notice (and appreciate) something good. But your kid has it too good. He's used to sitting comfortably on a soft couch, using a toilet, eating a variety of food, etc. So I guess it would follow that the solution would be to make his life h... and then he wouldn't notice the piano practicing so much.